I have to share this post with you today because it has been exactly where I’m at personally. I know if I’m experiencing this you are too or will be at some point and I pray this will help you embrace the season.
You’ve heard the saying “tis the season to be jolly”. During this time of year people everywhere are happy. They’re excited to spend the holidays with their family and friends. To relax from the day to day hustle and to ring in a New Year with new goals.
But what about the seasons in life that plain suck?
You know, the seasons that you put on a few extra pounds even though you’re working out like a mad man to keep it off but it keeps coming by the 10’s of pounds. You wake up and the scale has jumped 10 pounds out of thin air.
What about the seasons that you experience stress and overwhelm so unbearable. You want to pack your bags and move in under a rock where no one can find you. Your kids (if you have them) drive you bonkers, your husband needs to find a hobby, your co-workers can’t do anything right and all you want is quite alone time.
Or what about the season that work is just no longer serving you. At one point in time you loved what you do then one day you wake up and wonder how you got here. You feel an obligation to your company but everyday you dread getting in your car to drive into work.
These are just a few examples, yours may be totally different but at its core they’re all the same.
As hard as it is to embrace the times of struggle, it gets easier when you learn to lean into it, listen to what it’s trying to tell you and let go of control. – Trust me, I’m telling you this out of experience.
I’ve stayed in bad relationships and friendships too long. I’ve stayed at a dead end job too long. I’ve put on weight because stress and overwhelm wore me out. All of these I did trying to fight my way through and force the season to be ok. I tried to fix myself and others in the process which only led to more struggle.
Over the years, I’ve learned to embrace the season. It’s so easy to enjoy life when things are good but why can’t we find silence and enjoyment in the hard times? You can and I’m going to share my steps how but first I want to share why…
It’s important to let go and embrace the struggle because the sooner you do, the sooner you will find the reason behind the struggle. The sooner you will see the signs telling you how to pivot, how to learn and how to grow. Don’t stay stuck longer than you need to, instead embrace the struggle with these 3 simple steps:
- Acknowledge that you’re in a season. We often go too long without noticing we’re living in a funk then one day it knocks us over the head in the form of losing a job, a friend or loved one because of our bad attitude or simply in the form of a little depression. If you can learn to tune into your mind, body and soul you will be able to acknowledge the patterns that happen right before your down season so you can create you plan of attack.
- Listen. Once you’ve acknowledged you’re in a ‘season’ listen. Sit in silence, ask yourself deep questions, journal and reflect about the way you’re feeling. The more you listen to your mind, body and soul, the quicker you’ll get answers on what ways you need to pivot to learn and grow from the situation.
- Talk to good friends, mentors or coaches that will give you honest feedback. Not friends and family that sugar coat the situation and say it will be ok. People that will hold you accountable and help you see all angles of the situation. This is why I’ve hired coaches because it’s easy to surround ourselves with people that support us no matter what. Sometimes we need tough love and an outsiders perspective to move past a poor season.
Next time you’re feeling stuck apply these 3 steps and learn to embrace the season.